Fifty Shades: From Baby Boom to Rope Shortage?

Fifty Shades : From Baby Boom to Rope Shortage?

Could this erotic trilogy be causing a virtual baby boom?   Not to mention an apparent shortage of certain rope in the United States?   The first of these queries was recently posed to me by an interviewer for Parent Magazine.  It piqued my interest into the possibility that this steamy, erotic novel is awakening women’s desire from water coolers to book club groups, and boardrooms to bedrooms.

 

Are Baby Boomers having more sex because of Fifty Shades of Grey? …

Yes,  according to Babycenter.com, a large online community of moms and expectant moms, over 150 women have posted that their pregnancies were directed related to sex inspired activity by the best selling trilogy.  The Huffington Post adds that an increasing number of women are reporting more spontaneity and frequency of sexual encounters (1).  Depending on whether contraception is being used, more pregnancies may be occurring due to the increased…More enthusiasm and creativity is entering the bedroom, not only leading to more conceptions, but also a boom in the sales of sex toys.  According to Lisa Lawless, Ph.D, creator of Holistic Wisdom website, “Women and men are benefiting from these books as it is allowing them to consider sexual creativity and exploration in ways that they perhaps had not considered.”(2)

 

Are Men interested in Fifty Shades? — Fifty Shades Too Boring?

According to a recent survey in the Village Voice, Fifty Shades of Grey: Do Dudes Even Care About E.L. James’ Steamy Trilogy?, the resounding answer was “no”. (3) One response from a 34 year-old business owner, summed it up.  “My wife is reading it right now.  I have no idea how it’s affecting our sex life.  I don’t know if it’s impacted it at all.  Maybe you should ask her.” Yet other sites have claimed that men are reaping the sexual benefits of their partner’s increased sexual desire, while not specifically reading the book themselves.

For those men who might not be so inclined to download it on their Kindle or i-pad, a special, shortened version  is available. Tom Paolangeli is the author of “A Guy’s Secret Guide to Fifty Shades of Grey”, a cliff note version of the original book by E.L.James written from a man’s perspective.   He advises, “Trust me – you do not want to read the book. It was written by a woman, for women. Most guys will find it dull, stupid, tiresome and waaaay too long. The ratio of tedious inner female monologue to sex scenes is about fifty shades of boring to one.”  But he also that by reading a few sections of the book, “…your odds of having hot sex with your sweetie will go up exponentially…” (4)

What does Dr. Oz think?

Recently, Dr. Oz offered his opinion regarding the impact of the E.L. James’ blockbuster trilogy.  “She has gotten people talking about sex in a way that no one else could get them to talk about it…. What it is about is people having an honest conversation about what sex should be like, what makes it feel better, what are the timing issues, how do we make it an important issue in our life rather than an afterthought.”

Well, Dr. Oz, I thought that was what my book, Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life, was supposed to do!  Perhaps my book took on a too clinical and practical approach rather than a bondage and submission angle.  Maybe then my book would be on the New York best seller list, too.   Brings back vague memories of how I should have bought Starbuck’s stock back in the early 1990’s.

When will this “Fifty Shades” bonanza end? 

Not anytime soon.   Apparently, a movie series is in the making with the cast being set as we speak.  In addition, E L. James has chosen a company in the United Kingdom, Caroline Mickler Ltd, as the global licensing agent for merchandise based on her racy books with a line of Fifty-Shades’ based lingerie/sleepwear, apparel, fragrances, beauty products, bedding , etc.”.(5)    Sales of sex toys are sky-rocketing, including the sale of rope.

According to the New York Post, New York hardware stores have seen a run on sales of rope, and other bondage gear, bought by female fans of Fifty Shades (6).  Watch out for the soon-to-be shortage of  hand-cuffs and riding crops!!

Share your views on the book.   

Feel free to use an alias or your initials with your post.  It’s a tender topic and I respect your views and candor.

Has it impacted your sex life?  If so, in what way?

Has the frequency of sex increased for you and your partner?

Has your partner read it?

Citations:

1)   www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/26/fifty-shades-of-grey-names_n_1707842.html

2)   www.holisticwisdom.com/fifty-shades-james-sex-toys-bondage.htm.

3)   www.villagevoice.com/runninscared/2012/07/fifty_shades_of_gre_men_react.php

4)   www.amazon.com/Secret-Guide-Fifty-Shades-ebook/dp/8008080RDFRU

5)   www.theadvocate.com/utility/homepagestories/2675013-129/men-are-fans-too-of

6)  www.nypost.com/p/news/local/ny_gals_learning_the_ropes_at_fifty_sVWWKeksj9WKUto2ITg/KK

 


Cranberry juice for Bladder Infections: Fact or Folklore?

 

We’ve all heard it.  ”Drink cranberry juice to flush out a bladder infection!”  Is this really a medical remedy?

The answer is, Yes!

According to new research published in Archives of Internal Medicine, cranberry- containing products, especially cranberry juice, protect women against bladder infections, especially those prone to recurrent infections. (1)
Bladder infections, or urinary tract infections (UTI’s), are on the most commonly acquired bacterial infections, leading to approximately 7 million office visits and 1 million visits to emergency departments each year in the US, with estimated annual cost of $1.6 billion dollars. Approximately, 40-50% of women will experience at least one episode of UTI during their lifetimes.   Some of my patients experience many more!

Fact or folklore?
For years, cranberry juice, and its derivative tablets and capsules, were perceived merely as a folk remedy to prevent UTI’s. Now, findings indicate that cranberry-containing products legitimately do contain powerful substances which protect against UTI’s – in the general population of women, as well as highly susceptible women, such as pregnant women or elderly patients.
The research reviewed 13 different randomized, controlled trials involving over 1,600 men, women and children of different populations including the elderly. The majority of trials were conducted in North America with the remainder performed in Finland, Italy and the United Kingdom.
How do cranberries help prevent bladder infections?
Cranberry ( genus Vaccinium) has been shown to contain a specific substance, known as A-type proanthocyanidins (PAC’s) which interfere with the way bacteria attach to the bladder wall.

To get a bit more technical, the PAC’s inhibit the adherence of P-fimbriated Escherichia coli (or E. coli, the most common bacteria leading to UTI) to urogenital mucosa. Cranberry juice was more effective than capsules or tablets, most likely due to the fact the women drinking the juice consumed approximately 2-3 glasses of cranberry juice /day and thus were better hydrated. The exact dose of PAC’s to prevent UTI’s has yet to be determined, so limit your intake of juice and increase water intake.
Here are 5 tips to decrease your risk of UTI.

1) Stay hydrated. Drink 6-8 glasses of water every day. If you feel some symptoms of UTI coming on, such as burning when you urinate or urinating more frequently, add 1-2 glasses of cranberry juice to your daily intake. (One caution: cranberry juice contains a large amount of sugar so if you are diabetic, speak with your physician before this.)

2) Be careful with personal hygiene. Always clean your genital area from front to back to avoid spreading bacteria from your rectum to your vagina.

3) Urinate after sex. This will help flush out the bacteria that may be heading towards your urethra, which is the opening where urine comes out from your bladder.

4) Avoid the use of scented soaps, feminine deodorants and colored toilet paper. These may contain chemicals which can irritate your genital area.

5) Avoid prolonged activities that may increase urinary tract infections such as prolonged bicycle rides, horse riding or motorcycles. Instead, take a break every 1-2 hours and empty your bladder.
If you are persistently prone to UTI’s, especially after having sex, your physician may prescribe an antibiotic which will prevent these infections.

So stock up on some cranberry juice! Your bladder will thank you for it.

Lighting the way…

Dr. Diana

Dr. Diana

Citations:

1) Wang, CH., et al(2012).  Cranberry-Containing Products for Prevention of Urinary Tract Infections in Susceptible Populations:  A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis of Randomized Controlled Trials.  Arch Intern Med; 172 (13); 988-996.

Please share any other tips you may have to reduce or treat bladder infections.  The Listen To Your Libido Community is waiting to hear from you!

One Step Closer to a “Female Viagra”?

We’ve all seen the commercials for the little blue pill, Viagra. Men jumping for joy while the song , “We are the Champions”, by Queen, is blasting in the background. Ever wonder why the little blue pill that has worked wonders for male sexual dysfunction never made it into a little “pink” pill?

Well, new research led by a team of researchers at Pfizer’s labs in England, using a novel prototype drug may pave the way for discovering more about the mechanisms underlying female sexual arousal and developing a “female Viagra”. (1),

It is estimated that approximately 40% of women experience some type of sexual disorder, with desire and arousal being the most common (2,3). At present there is not a single US FDA approved medication for treatment of sexual problems in women. When Pfizer initially marketed Viagra for men, there were high hopes that Viagra, sildenafil citrate, would work as effectively for women and represent the “Holy Grail” that many pharmaceutical companies were vying to find.

The Advent of the “Blue Pill”

Viagra was initially developed by British scientists and brought to market by Pfizer, becoming available in 1998. Since this time, sildenafil has been the primary treatment for erectile dysfunction in men. Viagra works by increasing blood flow, or vasocongestion, in the erectile tissue located in the penis. For those biochemists out there, the mechanism of action involves the protection of cyclic guanosine monophosphate (cGMP) from being metabolized by a certain enzyme, phosphodiesterase type 5, leading to smooth muscle relaxation and increased inflow of blood into the spongy tissue of the penis, causing an erection (4).

What did studies in women taking Viagra find?

Definitely not the same results as in men! One large study involved premenopausal and postmenopausal women with female sexual arousal disorder comparing 10-100 mg sildenafil with matching placebo. Unfortunately, there was no perceived difference in improvement of sexual response in the women in the Viagra compared to placebo (5). Other studies also confirmed these findings.

So how are we a step closer to a “female Viagra”?
A research group led by Chris Wayman at the Pfizer lab found that electrically stimulating the pelvic nerve increases blood flow to the genitalia and that by using a prototype drug ( UK-414, 498) this effect was enhanced. The drug which was tested on rabbits and found increased blood flow specifically to the genitalia. The key component is that arousal was initially stimulated in the female rabbits and then the drug was administered. “The drug would not create arousal out of nowhere, however, would boost blood flow when accompanied by desire and sexual stimulation”, said Wayman.

According to Sheryl Kingsberg at Case Medical Center in Cleveland, this new discovery will help only a minority of women who have diagnosable arousal disorders, approximately 5% of women (6). “This is the closest thing out there to Viagra for women, but the problem is that a Viagra-like effect will not solve the majority of sexual dysfunction cases in women. In contrast to men in whom erections have played a huge role in sexual health, for women arousal is not the key problem, desire is.”

Though the prototype itself is unlikely to become a drug according to Wayman, “Testing the drug has helped to defog the mystery behind Female Sexual Arousal Disorder.”So we are left with the million dollar question of how to increase desire in women.

As we know female sexual response is complex and can’t be flipped on like a light switch. It’s more like a complex control panel.

Presently, researchers are investigating specific medications which work “above the belt” in women, targeting areas in the brain responsible for desire…because for women, the main sexual organ is the brain!

In the meantime, start doing your own research.

What make you feel more desire?
What makes you feel more desirable?

I believe that “you first need to feel desirable — to then have desire- “

Citations:
1. Wayman, CP. et al. UK-414,495, a selective inhibitor of neutral endopeptidase, potentiates pelvic nerve-stimulated increases in female genital blood flow in the anaesthetized rabbit. British Journal of Pharmacology. 2010; May: 160 (1): 51-59.

2. Laumann, EO. et al. Sexual Dysfunction in the United States: Prevalence and Predictors. JAMA, 1999; 281 (6): 537 -544.

3. Laumann, EO et al. A population- based survey of sexual activity, sexual problems and associated help-seeking behavior patterns in mature adults in the United States of America. Int.J. Impot. Res. 2009; May-June: 21(3): 171-178.
4. Webb, DJ et al. Sildenafil citrate and blood-pressure lowering drugs : results of drug interaction studies with an organic nitrate and a calcium antagonist. Am. J. Cardiol, 1999; 83: (5A): 21C – 28C.

5. Basson, R. et al. Efficacy and safety of sildenafil citrate in women associated with female sexual arousal disorder. Journal of Women’s Health and Gender-Based Medicine. 2002;11:367-377.

6. Are We a Step Closer to a Viagra for Women? http://abcnews.go.com/Health/Wellness/viagra-women-female-sexual-dysfunction-spotlight.

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photo credit: Paul-in-London

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