Fifty Shades : From Baby Boom to Rope Shortage?
Could this erotic trilogy be causing a virtual baby boom? Not to mention an apparent shortage of certain rope in the United States? The first of these queries was recently posed to me by an interviewer for Parent Magazine. It piqued my interest into the possibility that this steamy, erotic novel is awakening women’s desire from water coolers to book club groups, and boardrooms to bedrooms.
Are Baby Boomers having more sex because of Fifty Shades of Grey? …
Yes, according to Babycenter.com, a large online community of moms and expectant moms, over 150 women have posted that their pregnancies were directed related to sex inspired activity by the best selling trilogy. The Huffington Post adds that an increasing number of women are reporting more spontaneity and frequency of sexual encounters (1). Depending on whether contraception is being used, more pregnancies may be occurring due to the increased…More enthusiasm and creativity is entering the bedroom, not only leading to more conceptions, but also a boom in the sales of sex toys. According to Lisa Lawless, Ph.D, creator of Holistic Wisdom website, “Women and men are benefiting from these books as it is allowing them to consider sexual creativity and exploration in ways that they perhaps had not considered.”(2)
Are Men interested in Fifty Shades? — Fifty Shades Too Boring?
According to a recent survey in the Village Voice, Fifty Shades of Grey: Do Dudes Even Care About E.L. James’ Steamy Trilogy?, the resounding answer was “no”. (3) One response from a 34 year-old business owner, summed it up. “My wife is reading it right now. I have no idea how it’s affecting our sex life. I don’t know if it’s impacted it at all. Maybe you should ask her.” Yet other sites have claimed that men are reaping the sexual benefits of their partner’s increased sexual desire, while not specifically reading the book themselves.
For those men who might not be so inclined to download it on their Kindle or i-pad, a special, shortened version is available. Tom Paolangeli is the author of “A Guy’s Secret Guide to Fifty Shades of Grey”, a cliff note version of the original book by E.L.James written from a man’s perspective. He advises, “Trust me – you do not want to read the book. It was written by a woman, for women. Most guys will find it dull, stupid, tiresome and waaaay too long. The ratio of tedious inner female monologue to sex scenes is about fifty shades of boring to one.” But he also that by reading a few sections of the book, “…your odds of having hot sex with your sweetie will go up exponentially…” (4)
What does Dr. Oz think?
Recently, Dr. Oz offered his opinion regarding the impact of the E.L. James’ blockbuster trilogy. “She has gotten people talking about sex in a way that no one else could get them to talk about it…. What it is about is people having an honest conversation about what sex should be like, what makes it feel better, what are the timing issues, how do we make it an important issue in our life rather than an afterthought.”
Well, Dr. Oz, I thought that was what my book, Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life, was supposed to do! Perhaps my book took on a too clinical and practical approach rather than a bondage and submission angle. Maybe then my book would be on the New York best seller list, too. Brings back vague memories of how I should have bought Starbuck’s stock back in the early 1990’s.
When will this “Fifty Shades” bonanza end?
Not anytime soon. Apparently, a movie series is in the making with the cast being set as we speak. In addition, E L. James has chosen a company in the United Kingdom, Caroline Mickler Ltd, as the global licensing agent for merchandise based on her racy books with a line of Fifty-Shades’ based lingerie/sleepwear, apparel, fragrances, beauty products, bedding , etc.”.(5) Sales of sex toys are sky-rocketing, including the sale of rope.
According to the New York Post, New York hardware stores have seen a run on sales of rope, and other bondage gear, bought by female fans of Fifty Shades (6). Watch out for the soon-to-be shortage of hand-cuffs and riding crops!!
Share your views on the book.
Feel free to use an alias or your initials with your post. It’s a tender topic and I respect your views and candor.
Has it impacted your sex life? If so, in what way?
Has the frequency of sex increased for you and your partner?
Has your partner read it?