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The Bedroom-Libido Connection

What message is your bedroom sending?

Is it a place that invites open and intimate communication?

Is it conducive to rest and relaxation?

Believe it or not, how you and your partner decorate your bedroom does in fact influence the quality of your sex life. The ancient Chinese principle of Feng Shui, placing certain objects and structures in a harmonious fashion as well as implementing colors, compass directions, and natural elements like wood, minerals, fire, water and earth is thought to attract good energy and fortune. You can use the same principals to transform your bedroom into a romantic retreat – a “love shack”!

In order to preserve the bedroom as a sacred place for you and your partner, use it only for sleep and intimacy. Avoid distractions such as computers, work materials, exercise equipment, or television. According to a recent study, “If there’s no television in the bedroom, the frequency of sexual
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Letter from a reader: Which scents will boost my and my wife’s libido?

By Diana

photo credit: MrBG

Subject: A Little Help Please

Hello,

I am asking for a little help in boosting my libido, and helping my wife get in the mood through fragrances in the bedroom. Any advice or ideas would be appreciated. Thank you.

Hello W -

Thank you for your email. I’m glad you wrote as I do have some suggestions that I think will help you and your wife…

Researchers at the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation in Chicago have conducted trials to gauge women’s sexual response to certain scents. By measuring the blood flow to the vagina, various odors were tested to evaluate arousal. You might be surprised at what they found! Among those scents found to increase
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Lost your mojo? 5 ways to re-ignite those flames of desire.

By Diana Leave a Comment

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Has your sex life taken a dive even though you are still interested in your partner? You are not alone. According to the recent 2009 Sex, Romance, and Relationships Survey released by the AARP in May 2010, people’s sex drives have been dropping at an alarming rate(1). The study, which included a random sample of 1,670 American men and women aged 45 and older, reveals some intriguing findings. Between 2004 and 2009, the percentage of people in the 50s who say they have sex once a week dove nearly 10 points for both sexes (women dropped from 43 to 32% and men from 49 to 41%). Other age groups also show similar decreases.

One alarming statistic of this survey shows how sex has definitely “cooled down” for many menopausal women. Approximately 1 in 5 women in their 50s say they’d be quite happy to never have sex again. About 1 in 50 men in their 50s agree.

Every day in my gynecological practice, I see perimenopausal and menopausal women concerned about their lost desire, or the “urge to merge” as I like to call it.

Let me share 5 ways that you can re-ignite those flames of desire:
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Heighten your sexual experience by turning off your brain

By Diana Leave a Comment

To get turned on, you need to turn off your brain. Give it a well-deserved break. Allow it to do just one thing at a time, not 20 things. Focus on the scene and your partner. Mindfulness meditation is a very useful way to train your brain to do this. Using this method, thoughts can enter your mind but go right through without without needing to be fixated on. Have your mind focus on something peaceful or loving while you are caressing your partner. Keep bringing your thoughts back to what is happening to you physically – how you like his touch, his cologne, what is turning you on at that moment. This may take some practice, but is definitely achievable!

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Do women ever hit a ‘sexual peak’?

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In general, women hit a sexual peak between ages 20 and 35. However, I believe that this peak can be achieved at any age – the key is being comfortable and less inhibited in order to enjoy sexual intimacy with your partner. As we age,
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Multi-tasking vs. your Libido

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Women are known as the ultimate multi-taskers…but this seemingly positive attribute can actually be a contributor in decreased desire for physical intimacy and can negatively impact your emotional and physical health. Studies have shown that multi-tasking can
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Romantic, Inexpensive and Fun Ways to Enhance Your Relationship

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Brrrr…it’s cold outside! But things can still stay steaming hot between you and your partner! Here are some ideas that the two of you can try when you want to spend some fun bonding time together while keeping to your budget…

Game night! A game of Scrabble, Trivial Pursuit, Guitar Hero, charades, or Twister with some snacks and music can make for a night of laughs and great memories.
Take a walk with each other in the park or, if there’s snow, put your mittens on and get the sled out! Being outdoors together is invigorating and fun.
Turn your bathroom into a romantic, calming spa. Sensual lavender
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New Year’s Resolutions to Increase Your Libido

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Watch this clip from Fox 10′s “Arizona Morning” TV show – my suggestions for New Year’s Resolutions that you can put into place to increase your libido!

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