Fifty Shades: From Baby Boom to Rope Shortage?

Fifty Shades : From Baby Boom to Rope Shortage?

Could this erotic trilogy be causing a virtual baby boom?   Not to mention an apparent shortage of certain rope in the United States?   The first of these queries was recently posed to me by an interviewer for Parent Magazine.  It piqued my interest into the possibility that this steamy, erotic novel is awakening women’s desire from water coolers to book club groups, and boardrooms to bedrooms.

 

Are Baby Boomers having more sex because of Fifty Shades of Grey? …

Yes,  according to Babycenter.com, a large online community of moms and expectant moms, over 150 women have posted that their pregnancies were directed related to sex inspired activity by the best selling trilogy.  The Huffington Post adds that an increasing number of women are reporting more spontaneity and frequency of sexual encounters (1).  Depending on whether contraception is being used, more pregnancies may be occurring due to the increased…More enthusiasm and creativity is entering the bedroom, not only leading to more conceptions, but also a boom in the sales of sex toys.  According to Lisa Lawless, Ph.D, creator of Holistic Wisdom website, “Women and men are benefiting from these books as it is allowing them to consider sexual creativity and exploration in ways that they perhaps had not considered.”(2)

 

Are Men interested in Fifty Shades? — Fifty Shades Too Boring?

According to a recent survey in the Village Voice, Fifty Shades of Grey: Do Dudes Even Care About E.L. James’ Steamy Trilogy?, the resounding answer was “no”. (3) One response from a 34 year-old business owner, summed it up.  “My wife is reading it right now.  I have no idea how it’s affecting our sex life.  I don’t know if it’s impacted it at all.  Maybe you should ask her.” Yet other sites have claimed that men are reaping the sexual benefits of their partner’s increased sexual desire, while not specifically reading the book themselves.

For those men who might not be so inclined to download it on their Kindle or i-pad, a special, shortened version  is available. Tom Paolangeli is the author of “A Guy’s Secret Guide to Fifty Shades of Grey”, a cliff note version of the original book by E.L.James written from a man’s perspective.   He advises, “Trust me – you do not want to read the book. It was written by a woman, for women. Most guys will find it dull, stupid, tiresome and waaaay too long. The ratio of tedious inner female monologue to sex scenes is about fifty shades of boring to one.”  But he also that by reading a few sections of the book, “…your odds of having hot sex with your sweetie will go up exponentially…” (4)

What does Dr. Oz think?

Recently, Dr. Oz offered his opinion regarding the impact of the E.L. James’ blockbuster trilogy.  “She has gotten people talking about sex in a way that no one else could get them to talk about it…. What it is about is people having an honest conversation about what sex should be like, what makes it feel better, what are the timing issues, how do we make it an important issue in our life rather than an afterthought.”

Well, Dr. Oz, I thought that was what my book, Healthy Sex Drive, Healthy You: What Your Libido Reveals About Your Life, was supposed to do!  Perhaps my book took on a too clinical and practical approach rather than a bondage and submission angle.  Maybe then my book would be on the New York best seller list, too.   Brings back vague memories of how I should have bought Starbuck’s stock back in the early 1990’s.

When will this “Fifty Shades” bonanza end? 

Not anytime soon.   Apparently, a movie series is in the making with the cast being set as we speak.  In addition, E L. James has chosen a company in the United Kingdom, Caroline Mickler Ltd, as the global licensing agent for merchandise based on her racy books with a line of Fifty-Shades’ based lingerie/sleepwear, apparel, fragrances, beauty products, bedding , etc.”.(5)    Sales of sex toys are sky-rocketing, including the sale of rope.

According to the New York Post, New York hardware stores have seen a run on sales of rope, and other bondage gear, bought by female fans of Fifty Shades (6).  Watch out for the soon-to-be shortage of  hand-cuffs and riding crops!!

Share your views on the book.   

Feel free to use an alias or your initials with your post.  It’s a tender topic and I respect your views and candor.

Has it impacted your sex life?  If so, in what way?

Has the frequency of sex increased for you and your partner?

Has your partner read it?

Citations:

1)   www.huffingtonpost.com/2012/07/26/fifty-shades-of-grey-names_n_1707842.html

2)   www.holisticwisdom.com/fifty-shades-james-sex-toys-bondage.htm.

3)   www.villagevoice.com/runninscared/2012/07/fifty_shades_of_gre_men_react.php

4)   www.amazon.com/Secret-Guide-Fifty-Shades-ebook/dp/8008080RDFRU

5)   www.theadvocate.com/utility/homepagestories/2675013-129/men-are-fans-too-of

6)  www.nypost.com/p/news/local/ny_gals_learning_the_ropes_at_fifty_sVWWKeksj9WKUto2ITg/KK

 


Cranberry juice for Bladder Infections: Fact or Folklore?

 

We’ve all heard it.  ”Drink cranberry juice to flush out a bladder infection!”  Is this really a medical remedy?

The answer is, Yes!

According to new research published in Archives of Internal Medicine, cranberry- containing products, especially cranberry juice, protect women against bladder infections, especially those prone to recurrent infections. (1)
Bladder infections, or urinary tract infections (UTI’s), are on the most commonly acquired bacterial infections, leading to approximately 7 million office visits and 1 million visits to emergency departments each year in the US, with estimated annual cost of $1.6 billion dollars. Approximately, 40-50% of women will experience at least one episode of UTI during their lifetimes.   Some of my patients experience many more!

Fact or folklore?
For years, cranberry juice, and its derivative tablets and capsules, were perceived merely as a folk remedy to prevent UTI’s. Now, findings indicate that cranberry-containing products legitimately do contain powerful substances which protect against UTI’s – in the general population of women, as well as highly susceptible women, such as pregnant women or elderly patients.
The research reviewed 13 different randomized, controlled trials involving over 1,600 men, women and children of different populations including the elderly. The majority of trials were conducted in North America with the remainder performed in Finland, Italy and the United Kingdom.
How do cranberries help prevent bladder infections?
Cranberry ( genus Vaccinium) has been shown to contain a specific substance, known as A-type proanthocyanidins (PAC’s) which interfere with the way bacteria attach to the bladder wall.

To get a bit more technical, the PAC’s inhibit the adherence of P-fimbriated Escherichia coli (or E. coli, the most common bacteria leading to UTI) to urogenital mucosa. Cranberry juice was more effective than capsules or tablets, most likely due to the fact the women drinking the juice consumed approximately 2-3 glasses of cranberry juice /day and thus were better hydrated. The exact dose of PAC’s to prevent UTI’s has yet to be determined, so limit your intake of juice and increase water intake.
Here are 5 tips to decrease your risk of UTI.

1) Stay hydrated. Drink 6-8 glasses of water every day. If you feel some symptoms of UTI coming on, such as burning when you urinate or urinating more frequently, add 1-2 glasses of cranberry juice to your daily intake. (One caution: cranberry juice contains a large amount of sugar so if you are diabetic, speak with your physician before this.)

2) Be careful with personal hygiene. Always clean your genital area from front to back to avoid spreading bacteria from your rectum to your vagina.

3) Urinate after sex. This will help flush out the bacteria that may be heading towards your urethra, which is the opening where urine comes out from your bladder.

4) Avoid the use of scented soaps, feminine deodorants and colored toilet paper. These may contain chemicals which can irritate your genital area.

5) Avoid prolonged activities that may increase urinary tract infections such as prolonged bicycle rides, horse riding or motorcycles. Instead, take a break every 1-2 hours and empty your bladder.
If you are persistently prone to UTI’s, especially after having sex, your physician may prescribe an antibiotic which will prevent these infections.

So stock up on some cranberry juice! Your bladder will thank you for it.

Lighting the way…

Dr. Diana

Dr. Diana

Citations:

1) Wang, CH., et al(2012).  Cranberry-Containing Products for Prevention of Urinary Tract Infections in Susceptible Populations:  A Systematic Review and Meta-Analysis of Randomized Controlled Trials.  Arch Intern Med; 172 (13); 988-996.

Please share any other tips you may have to reduce or treat bladder infections.  The Listen To Your Libido Community is waiting to hear from you!

Birth Control for Men?

Sounds like an oxymoron, right?  But it’s true.

Now it’s the man’s turn to assume some responsibility in the contraceptive arena!  No longer is it just a man’s choice between using condoms  or getting a vasectomy.  Amazing new options are on the horizon!  Researchers are investigating various forms, targeted solely towards men, which are showing very promising results.  These options range from a long-acting injectable gel to a quick-acting male pill that could potentially markedly reduce the transmission of HIV.

According to a recent survey conducted by the U.S. Government’s Center for Disease Control (CDC), more than 80 percent of heterosexual women have used birth control pills at some point in their lives to prevent pregnancy.    Birth control pills became available to women in the 1960’s and represent the most common contraceptive used in the United States today.  Interestingly, global demand for male birth control appears increasingly popular, with a 2005 German survey revealing that 60 percent of men in Spain, Germany, Brazil and Mexico are willing to use a male contraceptive.

What is this new injection procedure?

It’s called Vasalgel and involves an injection into a man’s genitals which inhibits sperm motility.  It’s a new form of contraception known as, RISUG, reversible inhibition of sperm under guidance (1).  Yes, many men may become queasy just imagining a needle being injected into these tender areas.  After receiving a local anesthetic, a small amount of polymer gel is inserted into the vas deferens of each testicle.   The vas deferens is the conduit which transports sperm from the testicle to the penis.  The procedure apparently takes less than 15 minutes, works by destroying the sperm, lasts up to 10 or more years and is more easily reversible than a vasectomy!

When and if the man decides to return his sperm back to speedy and motile swimmers, another shot is given.  Within 2-3 months, active, functional sperm are functioning again.

These studies have been ongoing for the past 25 years and found to be safe in both humans and animals.  Researchers are optimistic that the procedure will become available in the U.S. by 2015, with clinical trials beginning this year.  At present, trials are only being conducted in India.

What about the new male birth control pill

In Papua Island, Indonesia, tribesmen have discovered a shrub called “Gandarusa” that acts like a birth control pill for men.  Per one tribesman, “If you chew the leaves often enough, your wife won’t get pregnant.”  The potential benefits derived from this shrub are undergoing close evaluation and appear to work by slowing down the activity of certain enzymes in the sperm that allow them to penetrate a woman’s egg.  For fertilization to occur, a sperm must enter the egg.  According to Sugiri Syarief, the head of Indonesia’s state-run National Family Planning Coordination Board, multiple animal and human trials have been conducted since the 1990’s and the plant’s effective compound was patented in 2007.  Researchers have tested the pill on two different groups of male volunteers, the first 36 men, and later with 120 men.  Trials involving more than 350 men are presently being done to verify that the sperm remain healthy yet are incapable of this critical penetration process in fertilization.

What else is looming on the horizon? 

Possibly another type of male birth control pill may become available.  Discovered by accident while studying male infertility patients, a group of Scottish scientists recently found a key gene essential for sperm development.   Per Dr. Lee Smith at the University of Edinburgh in Scotland, if scientists are able to regulate the Katna1 gene in the testes, they could prevent sperm from maturing completely, making them ineffective without changing hormone levels (2).

So why hasn’t the male birth control pill become available in the United States?

Profit, or lack thereof, is the apparent culprit!   Per Elaine Lissner, director of the non-profit Male Contraception Information Project in San Francisco, the impasse to male birth control pills has been the lack of profitability for the pharmaceutical giants.  “It’s a nightmare from the ‘for-profit’ standpoint.  We have to accept that the needs of for-profit entities and the needs of the public don’t always perfectly match.”

Definitely makes one wonder – what are pharmaceutical companies actually pouring their financial resources into?  Another drug for erectile dysfunction which makes a hearty return on investment or a male birth control pill which yields little return but carries huge global population impact?  Well, time will tell but I’m thinking the former!

What do you think?  Please share your comments!

Citations:

1. http://www.globalpost.com/dispatch/news/asia-pacific/indonesia/110224/indonesia-birth-control-pill-papua-men

2. http://www.globalpost.com/dispatch/news/health/120525/sperm-gene-discovery-could-lead-to-male-birth-control-pill

 

Lighting the way…

Dr. Diana

Dr. Diana
 

Why Are Men Always Thinking About Sex?

Men and women are literally “wired” differently for sex.  For example, eighty-five percent of men ages 20 to 30 have thoughts about sex every 52 seconds… no wonder they can’t remember to take out the garbage!

Women of the same age think about sex about once a day… except at the time of ovulation — the most fertile time — when women think about sex three to four times per day.  Let’s face it, ladies…
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The Bedroom-Libido Connection

What message is your bedroom sending?

Is it a place that invites open and intimate communication? 

Is it conducive to rest and relaxation?

Believe it or not, how you and your partner decorate your bedroom does in fact influence the quality of your sex life. The ancient Chinese principle of Feng Shui, placing certain objects and structures in a harmonious fashion as well as implementing colors, compass directions,  and natural elements like wood, minerals, fire, water and earth is thought to attract good energy and fortune. You can use the same principals to transform your bedroom into a romantic retreat – a “love shack”!

In order to preserve the bedroom as a sacred place for you and your partner, use it only for sleep and intimacy.  Avoid distractions such as computers, work materials, exercise equipment, or television. According to a recent study, “If there’s no television in the bedroom, the frequency of sexual
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Letter from a reader: Which scents will boost my and my wife’s libido?

photo credit: MrBG

Subject:  A Little Help Please

Hello,

I am asking for a little help in boosting my libido, and helping my wife get in the mood through fragrances in the bedroom.  Any advice or ideas would be appreciated.  Thank you.

W


Hello W -

Thank you for your email.  I’m glad you wrote as I do have some suggestions that I think will help you and your wife…

Researchers at the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation in Chicago have conducted trials to gauge women’s sexual response to certain scents.  By measuring the blood flow to the vagina, various odors were tested to evaluate arousal.  You might be surprised at what they found!  Among those scents found to increase
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Lost your mojo? 5 ways to re-ignite those flames of desire.

photo credit: Herval

Has your sex life taken a dive even though you are still interested in your partner?  You are not alone.  According to the recent 2009 Sex, Romance, and Relationships Survey released by the AARP in May 2010, people’s sex drives have been dropping at an alarming rate(1).  The study, which included a random sample of 1,670 American men and women aged 45 and older, reveals some intriguing findings.  Between 2004 and 2009, the percentage of people in the 50s who say they have sex once a week dove nearly 10 points for both sexes (women dropped from 43 to 32% and men from 49 to 41%).  Other age groups also show similar decreases.

One alarming statistic of this survey shows how sex has definitely “cooled down” for many menopausal women.  Approximately 1 in 5 women in their 50s say they’d be quite happy to never have sex again.  About 1 in 50 men in their 50s agree.

Every day in my gynecological practice, I see perimenopausal and menopausal women concerned about their lost desire, or the “urge to merge” as I like to call it.

Let me share 5 ways that you can re-ignite those flames of desire:
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Sex preserves vaginal health – use it or lose it!

“Use it or lose it” is literally true in the case of vaginal health!

Many studies in postmenopausal women have shown that they suffer less vaginal pain and atrophy, and less thinning of the vaginal lining, when they are having consistent sexual activity.  Vaginal atrophy can lead to vaginal dryness and itching, as well as urinary tract infections.  In women, sex increases blood flow to the vagina, keeping vaginal tissues more supple and lubricated – all of which can lead to less pain with intercourse as we age.

What do women and men look for in a long-term partner?

Any guesses as to which qualities men and women rank highest when looking for a long-term partner?

Women:
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Is it okay to fantasize about someone else during sex with your partner?

Sometimes, you or your partner may need to fantasize about someone else to become aroused and stimulated.  More than four out of 10 Americans enjoy sexual fantasies and erotica to boost their libidos.  As with  most things in life, moderation is key.  If you are fantasizing about someone else every time you are with your partner in an intimate way, then there is a problem.  What needs to be explored is why you aren’t fantasizing about your partner.  Does your partner still stimulate you?  Are you still attracted to him?  His body?  His scent?  By not discussing these issues together, you are being dishonest with yourself and your partner regarding the true state of your relationship.