Sex Improves Brain Health

Can’t remember the last time you had sex?

Well maybe it’s time to share some intimacy with your partner!

It has long been known that exercise may have many health benefits, decreasing mortality, improving cardiovascular function and decreasing risk of heart attack, enhancing cognitive functioning and improving depression. This effect has been shown in older individuals as well as in individuals who complain of memory difficulty. Many of us may fear that we are developing “pre-senile dementia” when we experience minor memory lapses during the day. Most likely these are due to fatigue and brain overload, rather than true brain pathology. Yet, if we implement new health strategies, like more sex and exercise, we will be improving our brain function.

When do we start seeing decreased mental sharpness?

It is now estimated there are more than 36 million people in the US over the age of 65 and that many of them will be impacted by cognitive decline and brain atrophy associated with normal aging. Strong evidence indicates that memory and cognitive skills start declining by age 50. (1). The prevalence of dementia ranges from 5% to 10% (2.) and that of mild cognitive impairment (MCI) ranges from 12% – 18% (3). This decline in cognitive tasks has a critical impact on the quality of life. To improve the quality of life, it is essential for individuals of all ages to implement healthy strategies to improve brain health –and wouldn’t having more sex be a fun way to do this?

How does having more sex help the brain?

With any form of exercise – and let’s face it, sex is a form of exercise – blood flow increases. The increased circulation of blood transports oxygen-enriched blood to the hypothalamus, the center of the brain for memory and learning. One study done by Yaffe and colleagues followed over 5,900 women (more than 65 years old) for 6 to 8 years with baseline self-report exercise measures (4). Women with a greater physical activity level at baseline experienced less cognitive decline during the 6 to 8 years of follow-up: cognitive decline occurred in 17%, 18%, 22% and 24% of those in the highest, third, second and lowest quartiles of blocks walked per week, respectively.

This also holds true for men. In a study of 2,257 men, the risk of dementia was 1.8 fold increased in men who walked the least (less than 0.25 miles/day) compared to those who walked more than 2 miles/day (17.8 versus 10.3/1,000 person-years) (5).

Interestingly, a recent review of over 11 studies of aerobic exercise programs for healthy older persons also indicated improved cognitive function with fitness improvement. The most consistent effects were seen with thought processing and attention, as well as memory, language and visuospatial skills (6).

So what are we waiting for?
Get out there and start spending some time with your partner frolicking in the hay!

Yet, if you or your partner is not physically able to have sex, think of some creative and romantic ways to be intimate. One idea: pack up a picnic lunch and go for a long stroll on the beach or in the mountains. Hold hands, enjoy the view and the connection with your partner— knowing that you’re helping your hearts, your brains and raising spirits!

Citations:

1. Salthouse, T.A. Memory aging from 18-80. Alzheimer Dis Assoc Disord. 2003; 17: 162-167.

2. Plassman, BL et al. Prevalence of dementia in the United States; the aging, demographics and memory study. Neuroepidemiology, 2007; 29: 125-132.

3. Petersen, R. et al. The Mayo Clinical Study of Aging: Incidence of Mild Cognitive Impairment. Alzheimers Dement 2008; 4: T130.

4. Yaffe,K et al. A prospective study of physical activity and cognitive decline in elderly women: women who walk. Arch Intern Med. 2001; 161: 1703-1708.

5. Abbott, RD et al. Walking and Dementiain physically capable elderly men. JAMA. 2004; 292:1447-1453.

Angevaren M, et al. Physical activity and enhanced fitness to improve cognitive function in older people without known cognitive impairment. Cochrane Database Syst Rev. 2008. P. CD005381

Sweaty T-shirts and sexual chemistry? Could it be “love at first… scent”?

Maybe it’s not similar interests, looks, horoscope signs or proximity that make men and women fall madly in love., but actually their body smell. Scientists specializing in the field of evolutionary psychology have long known the dramatic effect of pheromones in sexual attraction. Pheromones are subtle chemical signals released in the air which draw pairs of the same species together.

In mice, experiments showed that pheromones acted as attractants between male and females who were genetically similar except that they differed in a certain set of genes, known as the major histocompatibility complex (MHC)(1). This complex plays a key role in immune function. Individuals with different MHC’s would produce offspring with a stronger, more resilient immune system, thus conferring a distinct survival advantage.

What about in humans, who aren’t particularly known for their keen sense of smell? Could females sniff out the scent of their potential sexual partners?

A recent research study done by Swiss zoologist, Claus Wedekind, answered this question (2). In his “sweaty T-shirt” experiment, he recruited volunteers, 49 women and 44 men based on their distinct MHC gene types. He gave all of the male volunteers clean t-shirts to wear for two nights and then instructed them to be returned. In the laboratory, the T-shirts were placed in individual boxes equipped with a smelling hole and asked each female volunteer to sniff the boxes and rate the odor as to intensity, pleasantness, and sexiness.

The results were striking! Women overwhelmingly preferred the scent of T-shirts worn by the men whose MHC differed from their own and described them as the most “sexy”. The T-shirts worn by the males with similar MHC profiles were rated as “fatherly” or “brotherly” — definitely not “relationship” material.

Interestingly, in this same study, women taking the birth control pill did not show this same preference for different MHC genotypes. The theory is that the pill generates a physiological state similar to pregnancy, thereby inhibiting ovulation and hormones produced by the ovary during each menstrual cycle. Pill-users preference for MHC-similar scents turned out not to be a mate preference, but instead a preference of the smell of genetic relatives who would help them from a nepotistic perspective rather than a reproductive one.

In fact, through interviews of hundreds of patients, I have found that those in the happiest relationships with most satisfying sex lives actually crave the smell of their partner. Not only is it their physical appearance or personality that attracts them, but also the distinct smell of their body that gets the sexual juices flowing.

Here are three tips to put the power of scent back into your sex life!

1) Take a good whiff of some of his clothes, like his t-shirt or sweatshirt.
How does it make you feel? Do you think arousing thoughts or think he needs to immediately get his laundry done? Many women feel comfortable and safe when wearing their partner’s shirts because they are picking up his scent, whether it’s conscious or unconscious.

2) Experiment with some scent-sational aphrodisiacs.

Recent studies conducted by the Smell and Taste Research Foundation in Chicago found some powerful smells to boost his arousal (3). Specifically, the combined scent of lavender and pumpkin pie, as well as donuts and black licorice, increased blood flow to the penis by nearly 40 percent! Buy some pumpkin pie spice or lavender candles and place them around the house… and see how the sparks fly!

3) Smell-train your partner.

In general, women have a keener sense of smell than men. By wearing certain scents which your partner enjoys, he will be more attentive. An interesting cue that could subtly tell him that you’re in the mood, would be to put a few dabs of your favorite perfume on the nape of your neck and behind your ears. When he picks up this scent, he’ll know that all systems are go!
Questions for reflection:

• So what scent turns you on?
• What turns your partner on?

Experiment with various combinations of smells and create your own signature relationship smell.

Please share your findings with me and the other readers. ..Who knows, maybe your “scent” suggestions will spark up someone else’s presently dormant sex life!

Citations:
1. Yamazaki, K., Yamaguchi, M., Baranoski, L., Bard, J., Boyse, E.A. & Thomas, L. (1979). Journal of Experimental Medicine, 150: 755-760.
2. Wedekind, C., Seebeck.T., Bettens, F. & Paepke, AJ., (1995). MHC-Dependent Mate Preferences in Humans. Proceedings of the Royal Society of London, Series B: Biological Sciences, vol. 260 (n. 1359): 245-249.
3. http://www.senseofsmell.org/sosi-bookshelf-detail.php?value=Sensuality&cat=Sensuality

Giving thanks to your special someone

As Thanksgiving nears and we are reminded of the people in our lives who we are grateful for, take a moment to let your partner know what he or she means to you.  This type of communication will improve your relationship in general, as well as spill over into the bedroom.

During times of
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The Bedroom-Libido Connection

What message is your bedroom sending?

Is it a place that invites open and intimate communication? 

Is it conducive to rest and relaxation?

Believe it or not, how you and your partner decorate your bedroom does in fact influence the quality of your sex life. The ancient Chinese principle of Feng Shui, placing certain objects and structures in a harmonious fashion as well as implementing colors, compass directions,  and natural elements like wood, minerals, fire, water and earth is thought to attract good energy and fortune. You can use the same principals to transform your bedroom into a romantic retreat – a “love shack”!

In order to preserve the bedroom as a sacred place for you and your partner, use it only for sleep and intimacy.  Avoid distractions such as computers, work materials, exercise equipment, or television. According to a recent study, “If there’s no television in the bedroom, the frequency of sexual
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Letter from a reader: Which scents will boost my and my wife’s libido?

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Subject:  A Little Help Please

Hello,

I am asking for a little help in boosting my libido, and helping my wife get in the mood through fragrances in the bedroom.  Any advice or ideas would be appreciated.  Thank you.

W


Hello W -

Thank you for your email.  I’m glad you wrote as I do have some suggestions that I think will help you and your wife…

Researchers at the Smell and Taste Treatment Research Foundation in Chicago have conducted trials to gauge women’s sexual response to certain scents.  By measuring the blood flow to the vagina, various odors were tested to evaluate arousal.  You might be surprised at what they found!  Among those scents found to increase
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Can I use my husband’s Viagra?

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Lost your mojo? 5 ways to re-ignite those flames of desire.

photo credit: Herval

Has your sex life taken a dive even though you are still interested in your partner?  You are not alone.  According to the recent 2009 Sex, Romance, and Relationships Survey released by the AARP in May 2010, people’s sex drives have been dropping at an alarming rate(1).  The study, which included a random sample of 1,670 American men and women aged 45 and older, reveals some intriguing findings.  Between 2004 and 2009, the percentage of people in the 50s who say they have sex once a week dove nearly 10 points for both sexes (women dropped from 43 to 32% and men from 49 to 41%).  Other age groups also show similar decreases.

One alarming statistic of this survey shows how sex has definitely “cooled down” for many menopausal women.  Approximately 1 in 5 women in their 50s say they’d be quite happy to never have sex again.  About 1 in 50 men in their 50s agree.

Every day in my gynecological practice, I see perimenopausal and menopausal women concerned about their lost desire, or the “urge to merge” as I like to call it.

Let me share 5 ways that you can re-ignite those flames of desire:
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Any guesses as to which qualities men and women rank highest when looking for a long-term partner?

Women:
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Is it okay to fantasize about someone else during sex with your partner?

Sometimes, you or your partner may need to fantasize about someone else to become aroused and stimulated.  More than four out of 10 Americans enjoy sexual fantasies and erotica to boost their libidos.  As with  most things in life, moderation is key.  If you are fantasizing about someone else every time you are with your partner in an intimate way, then there is a problem.  What needs to be explored is why you aren’t fantasizing about your partner.  Does your partner still stimulate you?  Are you still attracted to him?  His body?  His scent?  By not discussing these issues together, you are being dishonest with yourself and your partner regarding the true state of your relationship.

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